Rebuilding the Psychological Foundation: The Core Role of Self-Love, Self-Confidence, and Self-Esteem in Body Management

Who are you? You are a person with flesh and blood, with feelings! When you suddenly wake up from a dream, you will see your truest self. Although sometimes this truth may frighten you, may make you completely lose confidence in yourself, this is who you are. You are not beautiful, you have physical defects, you have sometimes hurt others, you have many enemies, you can't get what you want, and you are not satisfied with what you have. You are a complete loser. But you must know that there is no such thing as perfection in this world. It's just that some people accept this fact, and some people don't. The person who accepts this fact, although she may also be dissatisfied with herself, this does not contradict her continued pursuit. She knows who she really is, she knows what she really wants, and she will pursue this perfection while making herself happy. Her pursuit has a bottom line. Her pursuit is achievable, and her pursuit makes her love herself more. On the other hand, the person who does not accept this fact, her pursuit is completely detached from herself, her pursuit has no bottom line. She doesn't care about her own feelings, she doesn't care about her own happiness, she would rather not have herself, she wants to challenge herself. She no longer loves herself, she has actually lost herself. This kind of pursuit can never be achieved. While some may reach this level, a life without joy, a life without a foundation, is like a house without a foundation; no matter how beautifully constructed, it will eventually collapse. She had to return to the beginning, rediscover herself, rediscover herself, accept herself again, and relearn to love herself. Why do you live? To make yourself happy; life itself is a journey to find happiness. You may not have the patience to listen further; you just want to find the secret to quick weight loss. But, dear friend, if you are a seasoned weight loss veteran, this is extremely important to you. You've carefully compared everything you do each day with weight loss secrets and found no "violations." But your weight keeps fluctuating, going from light to heavy, from heavy to light-your weight loss cannot be considered successful. You are completely baffled. Because no previous weight loss "textbook" has taught you the real reason for completely getting rid of weight loss. If you are a newcomer to the swimming world, or just an observer who has only ever admired but never acted upon, this is equally important to you. Weight loss has somehow become your entire life; weight loss is your friend, but also your enemy. You can only laugh it off and loudly proclaim, "Losing weight is a woman's lifelong pursuit!" Why do you live? You want to make yourself happy; life itself is a journey to find happiness. Ask yourself, why do you want to lose weight? Whether you say it's to boost your confidence or improve your health, it's all for a higher quality of life and greater happiness! Who dares to say that living is just about suffering? Making yourself happy and loving yourself are complementary. Love yourself, and you will make yourself happy. When you're happy, you'll feel how wonderful life is. You need to take good care of yourself and your life, and you'll love yourself even more. The key to losing weight and controlling it long-term is to rebuild your relationship with "yourself"-it's a "revolution to renew yourself"! What is self-love? What is self-confidence? What is self-respect? What is independence? What is self-reliance? While I can't give you a precise definition like a Chinese dictionary, I can assure you that all these words share a common word: "self." Self is yourself. Literally, it means loving yourself, believing in yourself, respecting yourself, being able to survive independently, and becoming strong. And the bridge to achieving this must be yourself-this is the harsh reality! Self-love, self-confidence, self-respect, independence, and self-reliance gained through social recognition are unreliable. Social standards change too quickly. Does keeping up with the standards equate to self-love, or not keeping up mean you don't? American standards differ from Chinese standards. What you consider self-love by Chinese standards might not be considered self-love by American standards. Confidence and self-love come from within, not from cosmetics applied to the face. Social standards are designed for social harmony and safe operation, taking responsibility for the entire society; they don't consider individual lives much. Self-love, however, is about taking responsibility for oneself, enriching and perfecting oneself; it considers one's own life entirely, regardless of whether society or others can see it. If you don't even love yourself, who can you love? When you love yourself, you can better understand the relationship between "living to lose weight" and "losing weight to live"; you can bravely face the issue of "eating because of emotional hunger"; and you can overcome your laziness and exercise for health. A person's life is a constant search for love-loving yourself, loving others, and being loved by others. The foundation of all this is actively loving yourself, rather than always hoping to please others, living within others' aesthetics and values, and relying on others' favor to discover your own unique qualities. You want to lose weight precisely because you love yourself, right? Loving yourself requires no conditions! You have the right and deserve to care for yourself. You need a healthy and relaxed body and mind. Believe in your ability to manage the relationship between loving yourself and loving others, making both yourself and others happy. You need to actively believe in yourself, not just because of the affirmation from others or society. You are you. Although you have flaws, that's who you are! Although you're overweight, that's who you are! No matter what, you are you! In this world, no one can replace you, and no one is like you. As the saying goes, "No one is perfect," meaning that no one is flawless. Conversely, it can also be said that no one is entirely without fault. You need to believe in yourself; you certainly have beautiful and lovable qualities. What you need is to actively discover them, instead of being afraid to see yourself because of your imperfections. As the saying goes, "You are what you believe yourself to be." If you lack confidence and believe you are worthless, you will see the first truly worthless version of yourself. Please remember what I said today: if you have this view of yourself, without a doubt, your self-perception is not objective. Although you have embarked on a weight loss journey, if you are burdened with self-doubt and uncertainty about the future, the road ahead will become increasingly difficult. What joy is there in this weight loss, this life? You need to actively respect yourself. From a young age, our parents taught us to respect the elderly because they are old; to respect our parents because they are elders; to respect our teachers because they give us knowledge; to respect authority because they have made achievements in certain areas. But did our parents teach you: you must first respect yourself? You are also a life, you have your own needs and your own rights. You know best what you need, and you know exactly what you're doing! You need to respect your own needs and every signal your body and mind send you. Listen to these signals, understand them, and treat them correctly! You don't need any weight loss methods; you just need these signals! Because your body is your most trusted friend; it will help you, it won't deceive you. You also need to be its best friend. When a friend makes a request of you, you'll definitely take it seriously. But when you make a request of yourself, why do you put it last? Do you do everything just for show? If no one's watching, can you disregard its objective needs? It's like many people who seem very loyal; knowing their bodies can't handle alcohol, but if a friend says, "If you don't drink this today, you're disrespecting me!" they'll prioritize "friendship" over their health and drink it! Do you respect your body? Of course, if you disregard "friendship," others will say you're not loyal, you'll be criticized, and you'll lose face! But if you disregard your precious body, although your body will protest, although you can clearly hear your body telling you what to do, and you might even pay a heavy price, others won't hear your body's demands, it doesn't affect your face, so you put that request last. You'd rather respect others than respect yourself! You'd rather be responsible to everyone in the world, giving everyone an explanation, but not yourself, not yourself! What you gain is just a false sense of face, but you've lost your fundamental self! You need to actively make yourself stronger! When you're trying to lose weight, you're actually at a disadvantage; your body and your habits are fighting against you. You need to strengthen yourself both physically and mentally, bravely facing challenges. This will allow you to do what you love and pursue what you love. When it comes to weight loss, there's no such thing as "you can eat" or "you can't eat"; there's no food that will make you thinner or fatter. At all times, you need a balanced diet, providing your body with sufficient nutrition so it can better serve your weight loss goals.